How to Have a Bisexual Date?

Having a bisexual date is a really intimidating thing. Are they constantly checking out everyone? Will they eventually leave you when the realize what they actually want? Well, for starters, no and no. Dating a bisexual can be just like dating a Catholic, a race car driver, or a brunette. That is, it doesn’t really matter. Read on to put your concerns away and relax in your relationship.

1.Recognize that bisexuals have a mixed attraction toward men and women.

When entering into a serious relationship with a bisexual person, be prepared to accept their attraction to a person of another sex—the same way straight or gay people are attracted to members of one sex. Remember that if this person is dating you in the first place, it is because they are attracted to you as an individual.

2.Respect the bisexuality of the person you’re dating as part of their identity. 

Most bisexual people consider themselves to always be bisexual, no matter who they are dating at the time. Do not suggest that they are heterosexual if they are in a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, or that they are gay if they are in a same-sex relationship.

3.Know that bisexuals aren’t “in transition.”

Not so long ago, being gay was flat out unacceptable. As a result, many gay people eased the coming out process by proclaiming themselves as bisexual and sort of getting their feet wet. It sort of ruined everything for those who were actually bisexual, turning Bitown into a pit stop to Gayville. But that’s not how it is. Sure, some people may transition that way, slowly realizing (or letting themselves realize) they’re gay—but others are aware of themselves and know that they’re bisexual without question.

4.Realize that bisexuals aren’t promiscuous. They are just like everyone else. The gay community (and bisexuals getting lumped into that) gets a bad rap for being particularly oversexed. A lot of that is true; there are a lot of gay people and bisexuals having tons of casual sex. However, there are lots of straight people having casual sex all over the place as well. It has less to do with the orientation of the person and much more to do with their character. Bisexuals are not any more or less likely to be monogamous than anyone else.