A few months ago, a man wrote a letter to his “curvy” wife, which basically advertised himself as daring to love her larger body than the average person. This caused a heated discussion between me and my colleagues (all of us thought this man and his letter were rather clumsy, by the way). But when I talk about how bad the heterosexual movement is, I listen to it too many times and the conversation goes on too tired.
I heard this from heterosexual women at work, heterosexual women at home, heterosexual women in the group of friends and on television. God, I hate men, “they joked.” I wish I could be a lesbian.
Usually I just nod and laugh at this moment, because, yes, sometimes men are terrible. But in my mind, my laughter is more like a sarcastic “Ha!”
Let me, your friendly neighborhood lesbian, tell you a secret: dating women is not a walk in the park (I mean, except for those dates I walk in the park).
Like men, women degenerate. Some women ghost other women. Some people are impatient about sex. Some are manipulative. Some are misogyny. No matter what bad behavior you are prepared for, you will be removed from the list because of men’s performance, which almost guarantees that a woman will do the same.
I know, because I dated some of them. With Chloe, I thought I really had too many gunpowder and text messages with her – she didn’t show up until our first date. With Anna, she pestered me for three months and disappeared as soon as I admitted that I had feelings for her. And Beth, a well-off ex-friend, who made me fat secretly during our five months together. There are many terrible first dates where women stare at their mobile phones instead of, you know, chatting with me.
According to the National Mental Disease Alliance, LGBTQ + people are three times more likely to suffer from depression or generalized anxiety disorder than heterosexual and heterosexual people. The Williams Institute reports that about 40% of homeless young people are LGBTQ+, and most of these children are on the street because they come out and their families let them go. We also face a greater risk of violence from partners. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that 44% of lesbian women and 61% of bisexual women had experienced rape, physical violence or partner tracking, compared with 35% of heterosexual women.
Beyond that, it’s not true that being a lesbian magically eliminates stress, drama and insecurity in dating. Gay dating is not like going to a buffet – you can’t pick a woman and live happily ever after. Believe it or not, even lesbians are embarrassed on their first date and have to deal with people who suddenly disappear.
So please don’t tell me that being a lesbian is much easier than being a heterosexual woman
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